A spiritual awakening, or enlightenment, is not what you think it is. Almost by definition it can’t be. So if you are seeking enlightenment, you are searching for something you actually have no point of reference for.
So why do so many people seek a spiritual awakening when they don’t even know what it is?
When you are out of alignment with who you are, you feel lack. This lack longs to be filled but you have no idea how to fill it. Since you can’t find it within, you look to sources outside yourself. Because this lack is felt at the level of your soul, you look toward the spiritual.
This yearning to fill the void causes you to go outside your current spiritual or religious frame of reference because these familiar ways have not proved helpful. In fact, they may have even made you feel further out of alignment.
Upon learning that there’s something out there that allows insight about the connectedness of everything, you feel naturally drawn to it. Though you are consciously unaware, what you are actually hoping is that if you experience such a connectedness, it will fill the void. The promise of filling that void is why a spiritual awakening is considered the holy grail of spiritual achievement and why it is so sought after.
Ok, so how do I have a spiritual awakening?
You can only have a spiritual awakening after you no longer desire one. Becoming aligned with your true self, you fill the emotional void. Filling the emotional void quenches the desire for enlightenment. It is then that you can see the interconnectedness of all things and your harmonious place in it.
Then how do I become aligned with my true self?
You already know the answer to this. You just don’t know you know the answer. Even though you may not be in alignment with your true self, you inherently know who you are. Simply put, you are that which makes you feel wonderful.
It sounds kind of funny, but you actually have to learn what makes you feel wonderful. Most of the things you think make you feel good are really just things that help you avoid feeling bad. For instance, you may think that having enough money to retire would make you feel wonderful but it might just be a way of avoiding having to work. As you become skilled at understanding what makes you feel good, what makes you feel wonderful becomes what you do for a living and why would you want to avoid that?
Then how do I tell the difference?
You have to get in touch with your emotions. I don’t mean why you feel the way you feel. Examining your childhood issues to understand why you get angry about certain things will not keep you from getting angry at those certain things.
How do I get in touch with my emotions then?
There are probably as many techniques of doing this as there are gurus. The methods that I teach are very practical because I am very practical.
Most people spend their lives trying to avoid pain. This is like backing away from something. You may avoid it (though often it will chase you) but you don’t actually end up where you want to be, you just end up somewhere else trying to avoid painful things there.
Psychology takes the approach of facing the root cause of you pain in order to take away its power. There’s a lot to be said for that especially when trauma is involved but it has two built in flaws.
The first flaw is that facing the root cause of your pain is a painful process in and of itself. The second is that it can send you on a never ending root-cause search.
Whatever you focus on creates your reality so finding the root cause of your sources of pain can send you on a lifelong mission, since you can always find things that cause you pain.
I’ve been told this is a great way to do it. I have even heard stories from those who say it has benefited them tremendously. It is not something I have the patients for so I have never mustered up the motivation to do it with any regularity.
This technique has its advantages though in that once you become skilled at slowing your thoughts, you can observe them and the emotional responses you associate with them. You can then learn to hold on to the emotions you appreciate longer and release the ones that do not resonate with you more quickly which eventually becomes a subconscious act in daily life.
Even though it’s not for me, I can recommend it if you go into it with as little judgment as you can and with the intention of becoming in greater alignment with the emotions that make you feel good.
Leading with an intention of having a spiritual awakening or shedding your ego (the new age term for evil) is not helpful at all. The intention of having a spiritual awakening is actually just highlighting a void and shedding the ego implies judgment. Your ego is your expression of the divine.
The method I used which lead to my enlightenment was to become intentional with my thinking rather than observational. This, forward thinking method not only leads you away from that which is not in harmony, it leads you toward that which is.
The greatest stumbling block I had with this method was overcoming judgment. When you desire something, in order to obtain it, you must feel worthy of it. Otherwise your subconscious cannot bring it into your reality. I did not feel worthy of anything I desired so my efforts were all in vain.
Once I discovered a simple psychological hack, using reverse affirmations, I was able to overcome self-judgement. The hack was simple, because most people believe that they represent the average person, I would repeat the affirmation to myself while focusing on random people, “you are perfect and beautiful and I love you unconditionally.”
Freeing yourself from judgment does two things. First, it allows you to feel worthy of your desires and second, it removes your limitations. Self-imposed limitations are the difference between what you think makes you happy and what really makes you happy.
Your mind is designed to create your reality. Your subconscious takes your predominant conscious thoughts, or beliefs, and goes to work to create your reality by causing you to do and say things (subconsciously) that bring about that reality. (It also taps into the collective subconscious to help orchestrate things but I’ll save that for another blog.)
The affirmation I used to free myself from judgement is an example of intentional thought. Thought once I did that and felt worthy, I no longer had to say them about others.
You can use visualization and other techniques to be intentional with your thoughts in order to create your reality too. Just be sure it’s done in a way that your subconscious mind accepts them as your truth and done on a daily basis. Your subconscious will not create outside of the boundaries of your beliefs. If it did, you would go crazy.
Has this been enlightening?
Enlightenment is one of my favorite subjects. It always comes how and when you least expect it and is completely different than you imagined. Because I am a practical guy, it came to me in a practical way allowing me to share practical tips with others about it. For you, who knows?
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