There are a lot people out there, obsessed with self-improvement. I was certainly amongst them. What better use of your time than to improve upon yourself, right?
Coming from the perspective now that everything and everyone is perfect just as it is, how do you improve on perfection? The short answer is you don’t.
You know how Michelangelo said that he just remove everything that doesn’t look like David when asked about how he created such a magnificent piece? Well, it’s a little like that.
It’s not entirely like that though. If your focus is on that which isn’t in alignment with who you are or as Michelangelo put it, the pieces that don’t look like you, you just end up finding more things not in alignment with who you are.
So then, how do you find alignment?
Alignment is easy. It’s what feels good. It’s what makes your heart sing. It’s what moves you to do incredible things. But you can’t do it by thinking observationally. This has to be achieved by intentional thought.
Then why can’t I just change how I observe things?
Ah yes, the, “look on the bright side”, approach. There are some who have had moderate success with this one but it requires far too much work.
The reason this approach fails more often than not is that your subconscious mind has a built it security check. It is designed to verify your thoughts using your emotional response.
So if you observe something you don’t like and you say something like, “well at least it’s not raining” you will still be experiencing a negative emotion and your subconscious will know you couldn’t care less about it not raining because your emotion isn’t congruent with your statement.
Then why not just change what I observe?
This is what most people do. How’s that working out for you? That’s a rhetorical question, of course. I know exactly how it’s working out for you. It works in exact correlation with how well you can manipulate your circumstances.
People whose circumstances are ideal or who are really good at manipulating them have an easier time with life. However, if their circumstances were to drastically change in a negative way they couldn’t control, they would be lost.
So self-improvement is a farce but I should try to find alignment by just doing whatever makes me feel good?
Sort of. You don’t actually have to do anything to feel good. When you’re thinking observationally, you must stumble upon or create a circumstance which you feel good. When you are intentional with your thoughts, you can create any emotional state you want.
Most people don’t even realize what their greatest happiness comes from but everyone has a point at which they can start.
By focusing on thoughts or at least a thought on a daily basis that makes you feel good and prolonging the feeling for as long as you can, you begin to train your mind to seek out things in alignment with that feeling and it begins to grow.
Growing that feeling causes you to become in greater alignment with your true self. Once you become familiar with that feeling, you can attach it to a thought in order to consciously create a reality in harmony with your true self.
How do I create a reality in harmony with my true self?
Feeding your mind thoughts on a daily basis that have a congruent feeling attached, causes your subconscious mind to go to work, causing you to do and say things (subconsciously) that will bring about the circumstances that create that reality.
Then how do I attach a positive feeling to a thought that brings about a negative feeling?
You can’t. You will have to modify your thought just enough to get past your subconscious’ mind’s security system. When your mind finally accepts the modified version as your belief (which happens over time if you’re practicing these principles on a daily basis), you can re-modify the thought over and over again until you’ve actually created the reality your mind previously could not accept.
What does this look like in practice?
Say you are an introvert and you want to become an extrovert because you want to be well liked by everyone and don’t want to feel uncomfortable around people. To attempt the thought on a daily basis that you are an extrovert is a futile endeavor.
Introducing the thought, every day I become a little more comfortable around other people, while imagining yourself just a tiny bit more relaxed than you were the last time you felt uncomfortable around a group of people, will allow your subconscious to eventually let the thought through.
How is this example any different from self-help?
Subtle differences can be so profound, can’t they? The difference is, this process will help you find alignment with your true self because you will find guidance from your emotion.
A true introvert might wish they were an extrovert but upon using techniques such as these, discover that they actually love being an introvert, they just want to feel comfortable around groups of people.
So, I’ve been doing it all wrong this whole time?
No, you can’t. You’re perfect, remember? Everything you do is just as it should be. You have made your questions known to your subconscious and the collective subconscious, the universe, God, or whatever you believe in and it has lead you here. Take whatever resonates with you from this and embrace it. The rest isn’t in harmony with you right now so focus on what is.
Sharing this information makes me feel wonderful. I hope you enjoyed it.